Where is personal development going and where does it need to be headed. Today we are seeing a true miss-direction and more important a non-growth in the research in developing the field of personal development. It is currently in the hands of people who really have no idea as to how to develop the field and there seriously needs to be a real change in the process of developing serious research in the field.
The following is what I believe is lacking in the field, but I want to create an on-line convention of experts who want to help develop a more serious approach to the development of quality in the process of giving the public a serious procedure in making it more professional. I will set up the convention with some of the ideas I have come up with, but I will make sure anyone willing to get involved to help develop the field in such a way it gives it more credibility where it can be turned over to academia so it can get the real attention it needs. I believe it needs to be seriously considered and more research given to the field. This is my goal, it will be my lives work and that is what I committed to in my education and promise to my professional attention to really make a difference in the field.
The following is some of the ideas I have come up with in regards to more attention, but I believe more input from qualified others as committed to the development of personal development. We in the field need to get serious about creating a researched and developed process for people to improve the quality of their lives and to reach their true potential. I also want to point out in the 25 plus years of my work in this area and my work in my dissertation has helped me to find real solutions to the personal development arena.
•Spiritual Development:
•Physical Development
•Mental development
•Emotional Development
•Social Development
•Service Development
•Leadership/Professional Development
•Love/Connection Development
•Financial Development
•Life Mastery and Excellence Development
In the above areas I have left out what I have found to be helpful because I also believe that each of us need something a little different, something more personal, in creating what will work for each individual. With this in mind let’s get together and begin to work on developing something more credible.
There are a lot of great ideas, but as I have said many times I believe in an eclectic approach so this is the main purpose to get more people involved. One way to do this is to ask each of you to express your ideas by writing an essay on what you have found that has worked for you.
I have selected each of you personally because I know you personally believe in personal development and I have seen your ideas which I believe are in-line with where this field needs to go. So with this said I ask that you please set aside the time to attend the on-line convention so we can discuss where to go from here. Positive psychology have done a great job moving in a direction that is helpful, but it has not done such a great job in making it useful in disseminating it to others. It’s done what most academic topics do and that is to keep it closely guarded and untouchable for those who are not in the academic field.
Now is the time for all of us to show those who want to guard psychology from practical applications that it’s time to move in a more applicable direction. Below I have provided a date and time for the first of several meetings. I also want to ask anyone who wants to get more involved to help facilitate this process. Anyone interested to present their own ideas please contact me at john@7poe.com and we can discuss how to get your ideas into the mix.
I look forward to the future in truly making personal development a real topic that will be respected for its effectiveness to help others become more than they ever dreamed possible.
In Life and Learning,
Dr. John P. DeMann
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Showing posts with label Strategies for Successful Living. Show all posts
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Wednesday, 1 December 2010
Thursday, 28 October 2010
SEVEN STEPS TO GENERATE NEW BEHAVIORS
SEVEN STEPS TO GENERATE NEW BEHAVIORS
By: John P. DeMann, Ph.D., CPEC, PPC, and ISSA.
To attain any outcome you desire we have found common patterns for those whose are successful. When I went out to research this I wanted to find those who had made radical changes in their life. I looked in one of the best places to find those seeking change, the gym. The great news is I interviewed several hundred people and I had them describe to me the process and it was very interesting what I found. I was able to put together a pattern that I know works. The following is that pattern and I want you to remember this patter will work if you put it to use.
1. Identify a function or behavior that you want.
2. Identify an opposite behavior you know disempowers you
3. Create a scenario using the empowering behavior
4. Create a scenario using the disempowering behavior
5. Notice in detain the difference in terms of pain and pleasure and in terms of future effects.
6. Future pace: Practice using the empowering behavior in the mind several times before going to bed and arising in the morning. Do this for 20 to 30 days to internalize your new behavior.
7. Act on it in real life situations.
I want you to get the spirit of acting out what you want to get done. This has been shown in research that mental rehearsal actually works and that champion athletes use it daily and seriously. It’s important to get the image as real as possible by getting as many of the senses involved. At some future date we can go into detail about the details of imaging, but for now it’s important to just do it.
I hope the above information can help you improve the quality of your life and the lives of others you have contact with. I also want to point out that the best way to learn is to teach so teach this to as many people as you can. Don’t get embarrassed just keep telling yourself you are helping them so if they want to make fun of your enthusiasm they are the ones who should be ridiculed. For now go to work and remember the spirit of learning is using and doing whatever it takes to get the job done.
In Learning and Living,
Dr. John Paul DeMann
By: John P. DeMann, Ph.D., CPEC, PPC, and ISSA.
To attain any outcome you desire we have found common patterns for those whose are successful. When I went out to research this I wanted to find those who had made radical changes in their life. I looked in one of the best places to find those seeking change, the gym. The great news is I interviewed several hundred people and I had them describe to me the process and it was very interesting what I found. I was able to put together a pattern that I know works. The following is that pattern and I want you to remember this patter will work if you put it to use.
1. Identify a function or behavior that you want.
2. Identify an opposite behavior you know disempowers you
3. Create a scenario using the empowering behavior
4. Create a scenario using the disempowering behavior
5. Notice in detain the difference in terms of pain and pleasure and in terms of future effects.
6. Future pace: Practice using the empowering behavior in the mind several times before going to bed and arising in the morning. Do this for 20 to 30 days to internalize your new behavior.
7. Act on it in real life situations.
I want you to get the spirit of acting out what you want to get done. This has been shown in research that mental rehearsal actually works and that champion athletes use it daily and seriously. It’s important to get the image as real as possible by getting as many of the senses involved. At some future date we can go into detail about the details of imaging, but for now it’s important to just do it.
I hope the above information can help you improve the quality of your life and the lives of others you have contact with. I also want to point out that the best way to learn is to teach so teach this to as many people as you can. Don’t get embarrassed just keep telling yourself you are helping them so if they want to make fun of your enthusiasm they are the ones who should be ridiculed. For now go to work and remember the spirit of learning is using and doing whatever it takes to get the job done.
In Learning and Living,
Dr. John Paul DeMann
Thursday, 4 March 2010
No Excuses
Have you ever noticed the excuses we make for the failures we experience? I have, man was it an eye opener! When I finally became aware of the excuses I was making for not achieving something positive, my life took a dramatic turn for the good. I have to admit, I still catch myself making excuses, but the difference is that I am aware of it. Awareness can be curative in itself and in my case for becoming aware of the excuses I make allows me to change my thought process and get back on track making failure a feedback process in learning. I live by a presupposition that says; failure is feedback! This belief is a belief that allows me to grow and I can tell you if you apply it you will be amazed at the results you get.
Existentialism is a concept that basically says we are responsible for all we experience in life, good or bad. I want to make sure you understand I am not saying you should become an existentialist; like all philosophies, it has its downfall. I always try to follow an eclectic approach in my practice as a psychologist and coach and in my personal life as well. However, in the case of our own successes and failures we can apply an existential approach and get some great answers to our own personal and professional development.
Lets assume a worse case scenario. A word of warning; please keep an open mind when you read this example so you can understand exactly what I am really saying. Lets take the example of rape. There is no doubt rape is a horrible experience that no one should ever have to go through and the person who is guilty of rape should be punished severely. The first point here to really understand is that our justice system does not prosecute for you, it prosecutes for the state! Many of us think that the punishment is for the victim, but it is not. It is for the people and the protection of all people. Those who believe the punishment is for the victim will leave the experience of justice with a real sour taste. Many believed that the justice given by the courts would make everything OK and make the experience less painful. The truth is that until the victim realizes the rape is their own responsibility, (notice I did not say fault), will be the ones who come away with an experience of growth and meaning.
Lets take the example of the person who started MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. Her child was killed by a drunk driver and I'm certain we all can understand how horrible that must have been. In fact, we almost can say we would not blame her if the experience put her into a great depression that would bring her nothing but pain and anguish the rest of her life. However, this grieving mother did something that allowed her to grieve, but also allowed her to grow from the experience. When she went through the justice system she eventually realized that the process of justice would not bring her son back. What did she do, she became an advocate on behalf of her son against drunk driving which is why we see drunk driving laws as they are today in the united states. What she realized is that the experience within herself was her own responsibility. How she framed the experience in her own mind was what made the difference. Instead of thinking how horrible the situation was she began to look at the experience as an opportunity. Because she was able to see the experience in a more positive light she was able to make the experience meaningful which allowed her to make the most of a tragic event. in short, She took responsibility for the experience and what the experience was going to mean to her.
The same can be said for the rape victim. Those who suffer the most and who lose the zest for life and love all together are those that stay the victim. They do not take responsibility for the rape and the experience it brings them. The truth is that their is nothing anyone can do for them except enable them to continue down the destructive path of, "the victim." Those who realize that they are responsible for the experience and how they will deal with it are the ones who take the experience and do something healthy with it. In fact, I believe that those who recognize the power of taking responsibility are those who are most successful! The sad truth is that most can never look past the pain they are experiencing and that pain and their frame of mind become generative and feed off one another. This leads down a path of self-distruction!
Taking responsibility does not mean going it alone through a horrible experience. When an addict finally asks for help they are taking responsibility. When a victim of a crime asks for help to better deal with the after math of their experience they are taking responsibility. In fact, I feel that asking for help is the most powerful responsible choice one can make in meeting any challenge. Many think that asking for help is asking someone else to take on some of the responsibilities of their challenges. This is far from the truth, those who are responsible enough to ask for help realize they don't have all the answers and also understand that finding others who do is the most productive avenue they can take. Asking others to help who have dealt with similar challenges we face can speed the process of growth. We can model their actions and eliminate the mistakes they made along the way which makes the process much faster, less painful, and less frustrating.
Taking responsibility begins with eliminating excuses for our current situations. We are who we are because of the choices we made, not the choices others make. Remember, we have a choice in how we respond to any experience good or bad. The more we exercise our choice muscle the more control we have over our own life. This idea can be applied to the goals we set for ourselves. When we realize that tomorrow is directly created by our choice today we take back control. We are no longer the ponds in other peoples life. Those who suffer and who do not take responsibility for the experiences they face have no control of what the future has in store for them. Again we can also see how this can be applied to general personal development. When we realize the power of personal choice we began to live a truly free and empowering life, one that brings joy and meaning. Began today, create your own experiences, by eliminate excuses, and learn from the failures and experiences of life!
John P. DeMann, Ph.D., CPEC, ISSA.
Existentialism is a concept that basically says we are responsible for all we experience in life, good or bad. I want to make sure you understand I am not saying you should become an existentialist; like all philosophies, it has its downfall. I always try to follow an eclectic approach in my practice as a psychologist and coach and in my personal life as well. However, in the case of our own successes and failures we can apply an existential approach and get some great answers to our own personal and professional development.
Lets assume a worse case scenario. A word of warning; please keep an open mind when you read this example so you can understand exactly what I am really saying. Lets take the example of rape. There is no doubt rape is a horrible experience that no one should ever have to go through and the person who is guilty of rape should be punished severely. The first point here to really understand is that our justice system does not prosecute for you, it prosecutes for the state! Many of us think that the punishment is for the victim, but it is not. It is for the people and the protection of all people. Those who believe the punishment is for the victim will leave the experience of justice with a real sour taste. Many believed that the justice given by the courts would make everything OK and make the experience less painful. The truth is that until the victim realizes the rape is their own responsibility, (notice I did not say fault), will be the ones who come away with an experience of growth and meaning.
Lets take the example of the person who started MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. Her child was killed by a drunk driver and I'm certain we all can understand how horrible that must have been. In fact, we almost can say we would not blame her if the experience put her into a great depression that would bring her nothing but pain and anguish the rest of her life. However, this grieving mother did something that allowed her to grieve, but also allowed her to grow from the experience. When she went through the justice system she eventually realized that the process of justice would not bring her son back. What did she do, she became an advocate on behalf of her son against drunk driving which is why we see drunk driving laws as they are today in the united states. What she realized is that the experience within herself was her own responsibility. How she framed the experience in her own mind was what made the difference. Instead of thinking how horrible the situation was she began to look at the experience as an opportunity. Because she was able to see the experience in a more positive light she was able to make the experience meaningful which allowed her to make the most of a tragic event. in short, She took responsibility for the experience and what the experience was going to mean to her.
The same can be said for the rape victim. Those who suffer the most and who lose the zest for life and love all together are those that stay the victim. They do not take responsibility for the rape and the experience it brings them. The truth is that their is nothing anyone can do for them except enable them to continue down the destructive path of, "the victim." Those who realize that they are responsible for the experience and how they will deal with it are the ones who take the experience and do something healthy with it. In fact, I believe that those who recognize the power of taking responsibility are those who are most successful! The sad truth is that most can never look past the pain they are experiencing and that pain and their frame of mind become generative and feed off one another. This leads down a path of self-distruction!
Taking responsibility does not mean going it alone through a horrible experience. When an addict finally asks for help they are taking responsibility. When a victim of a crime asks for help to better deal with the after math of their experience they are taking responsibility. In fact, I feel that asking for help is the most powerful responsible choice one can make in meeting any challenge. Many think that asking for help is asking someone else to take on some of the responsibilities of their challenges. This is far from the truth, those who are responsible enough to ask for help realize they don't have all the answers and also understand that finding others who do is the most productive avenue they can take. Asking others to help who have dealt with similar challenges we face can speed the process of growth. We can model their actions and eliminate the mistakes they made along the way which makes the process much faster, less painful, and less frustrating.
Taking responsibility begins with eliminating excuses for our current situations. We are who we are because of the choices we made, not the choices others make. Remember, we have a choice in how we respond to any experience good or bad. The more we exercise our choice muscle the more control we have over our own life. This idea can be applied to the goals we set for ourselves. When we realize that tomorrow is directly created by our choice today we take back control. We are no longer the ponds in other peoples life. Those who suffer and who do not take responsibility for the experiences they face have no control of what the future has in store for them. Again we can also see how this can be applied to general personal development. When we realize the power of personal choice we began to live a truly free and empowering life, one that brings joy and meaning. Began today, create your own experiences, by eliminate excuses, and learn from the failures and experiences of life!
John P. DeMann, Ph.D., CPEC, ISSA.
Friday, 22 May 2009
CINE-MIND: Direct Your Mental Movies
By: Dr. John P. DeMann
Go to the bookstore and notice the number of books on the shelf under personal development, there are hundreds. Go to the business section and notice how many books there are dealing with personal development, hundreds if not thousands. Everyone seems to know the answer to attaining fulfillment and performing at your best. Most of the books come at achievement from different angles claiming they have the answer. Have you ever wondered if there was one way to make sure you reached the top in your profession or just to be able to experience a life of joy and happiness? Most of the clients I speak with are frustrated and confused about what really works. In fact, many were about to give up and just let life happen and let the chips fall where they may. However, I have good news; these clients are now cause, not the effect, in their life and experiencing more than they ever dreamed possible.
Personal and professional development should not be difficult; in fact it should be easy. Why would our creator make it so difficult to know how to succeed? The answer is that our creator did not make it hard to understand how to achieve our true potential; it only seems hard because of all the confusion. Please understand, in order to achieve any level of achievement there will be a need for consistency and effort, but I can assure you that after reading this article your confusions will be cleared up and the only effort that you will have to produce will be the will to implement the information.
Our brains function like a movie cinema, creating images of all we experience. We think in pictures using several modalities; visual, auditory, kinesthetic, gustatory and olfactory, which we call our primary representations. These modalities are our senses and our mind has the ability to create from its memory banks any outcome we desire. In other words, we see pictures and movies in our mind and we have the ability to add to these picture and movies any sense we want to. We also have the ability to change the intensity of images we create in our mind; the colors, sounds, feelings, smells and tastes. These we call Submodalities and it is in these Submodalities we can manipulate and change the intensity of the images we create.
Some say they have a hard time seeing pictures let alone movies in their mind; some even go as far as to say they can't see images in their mind at all. This is simply not the case, we all think in images. The problem is that many times we think so fast that we do not notice the images we create, but if you take your time you will see that you too can create images with extraordinary intensity. If I ask you to picture a dog, do you see the word dog or do you get an image of a dog in your mind’s eye? The answer is that you see the image of a dog. What if I ask you to see a car, do you see the word car or do you see the image of a car? Chances are you see not only an image of a car but the image of your own car. If you question the fact that humans think in pictures remember that early man communicated using pictures on the cave walls not words. It was images that early man knew how to use instinctively.
When we think we trigger what is called the Reticular Activation System, RAS, in the brain which is really a mechanism that causes you to focus on what you are thinking about. In other words, if you are thinking about food then the RAS will create in the mind a lazar like focus on anything we experience that relates to food. When someone is depressed they are focused on or creating images in the mind that are depressing. This causes them to only notice those experiences that back up their depressing thoughts. When someone is happy they are creating images of happiness in their mind and the RAS then causes the mind to focus on the experiences that support their thoughts or images of happiness.
This tells us that we have the ability to create any experience we want to. It also tells us that we can change any negative experience we want to. However, we tend to create habits of thought which cause us to think or create images that are consistent. To break the habit we will need to become conscious of the images we create and change the negative ones to more empowering images that support our desired outcomes. We will also need to do this consistently so we can create new habits where we will be able to experience more empowering thoughts unconsciously and automatically.
Let’s look at an example: You want to lose weight/fat and are having a hard time. Think about the images you have of the outcome. Are they represented as an image only or is their sound, smells, tastes, do you get a feeling? Most would say they get a faint image, but nothing else. Some will say they never noticed any image at all. This tells us that the RAS was never activated and is why they probably never experienced the outcome they desired. In order to get the outcomes we desire we will need to activate the RAS so we will have an automatic pilot helping us along the way. To activate the RAS we will need to get a full image of what we want with the intensity of the Submodalities turned way up.
To change this and to experience how powerful the mind really is lets create a new image of what you want to look like if your goal was to lose weight/fat. Get a clear image in your mind of the outcome you desire. Using the Submodalities add color to the image; make it bright like an HD picture. In great detail see the body you want from head to toe. What sounds are associated to the image? Can you hear others saying great things about your physique? Do you hear the sounds of the gym? Are the sounds loud or soft? Generate imaginary sounds that will support you. Hear your friends saying wonderful things about your body. Hear people on the street saying positive statements about the body you have created. What feelings do you have internally about the image? Feel the emotions running through your body. Increase the intensity of the feelings and make them surge throughout your body.
When you do this you will experience massive state changes and this should help you understand the power of images you create in your mind. The key is to hold these images as long as you can. In the beginning you will find this difficult, but as you practice this technique you will be able to hold the empowering image for longer periods of time. Most people cannot hold an image for more than 30 seconds, but if you can get a quick snapshot of the image and the Submodalities you will experience the power of the mind and will attain your desired outcome. The hard part will be to do this consistently. This is where most people fail; they are not committed to consistency. The good news is that once you perform this for about a week on a daily basis you will notice that your behaviors will be more consistent with achieving the image you have created.
The best time to perform this is first thing in the morning and just before you go to bed for about 3 to 5 minutes. It would be even more powerful if you add another during the day just before lunch and one before diner. Try to do this before every meal, even before a snack or when you are faced with having food in front of you. You will find that it will help you overcome the urges to over eat or to eat unhealthy foods.
Once you begin seeing the image in its full intensity you will find that your desire to continue will get stronger. It is important to understand that you will need to change your behaviors, eating habits and exercise habits, on your own in the beginning, but once you get going eating healthy and exercising regularly will become a habit as well. Imagery is a supportive tool which will help curb unhealthy choices or choices that will not take you to your goal. No one said change would be easy, but now that you understand how the mind works the hard part will be your ability to consistently get yourself to perform the visualization exercise. The exercise will help direct your behavior and will help motivate you to achieve your goal. This process can be done for any goal. To enhance your understanding and to help others reach their goals teach it to a friend or a work associate, your efforts will provide a gift that can help change lives!
Go to the bookstore and notice the number of books on the shelf under personal development, there are hundreds. Go to the business section and notice how many books there are dealing with personal development, hundreds if not thousands. Everyone seems to know the answer to attaining fulfillment and performing at your best. Most of the books come at achievement from different angles claiming they have the answer. Have you ever wondered if there was one way to make sure you reached the top in your profession or just to be able to experience a life of joy and happiness? Most of the clients I speak with are frustrated and confused about what really works. In fact, many were about to give up and just let life happen and let the chips fall where they may. However, I have good news; these clients are now cause, not the effect, in their life and experiencing more than they ever dreamed possible.
Personal and professional development should not be difficult; in fact it should be easy. Why would our creator make it so difficult to know how to succeed? The answer is that our creator did not make it hard to understand how to achieve our true potential; it only seems hard because of all the confusion. Please understand, in order to achieve any level of achievement there will be a need for consistency and effort, but I can assure you that after reading this article your confusions will be cleared up and the only effort that you will have to produce will be the will to implement the information.
Our brains function like a movie cinema, creating images of all we experience. We think in pictures using several modalities; visual, auditory, kinesthetic, gustatory and olfactory, which we call our primary representations. These modalities are our senses and our mind has the ability to create from its memory banks any outcome we desire. In other words, we see pictures and movies in our mind and we have the ability to add to these picture and movies any sense we want to. We also have the ability to change the intensity of images we create in our mind; the colors, sounds, feelings, smells and tastes. These we call Submodalities and it is in these Submodalities we can manipulate and change the intensity of the images we create.
Some say they have a hard time seeing pictures let alone movies in their mind; some even go as far as to say they can't see images in their mind at all. This is simply not the case, we all think in images. The problem is that many times we think so fast that we do not notice the images we create, but if you take your time you will see that you too can create images with extraordinary intensity. If I ask you to picture a dog, do you see the word dog or do you get an image of a dog in your mind’s eye? The answer is that you see the image of a dog. What if I ask you to see a car, do you see the word car or do you see the image of a car? Chances are you see not only an image of a car but the image of your own car. If you question the fact that humans think in pictures remember that early man communicated using pictures on the cave walls not words. It was images that early man knew how to use instinctively.
When we think we trigger what is called the Reticular Activation System, RAS, in the brain which is really a mechanism that causes you to focus on what you are thinking about. In other words, if you are thinking about food then the RAS will create in the mind a lazar like focus on anything we experience that relates to food. When someone is depressed they are focused on or creating images in the mind that are depressing. This causes them to only notice those experiences that back up their depressing thoughts. When someone is happy they are creating images of happiness in their mind and the RAS then causes the mind to focus on the experiences that support their thoughts or images of happiness.
This tells us that we have the ability to create any experience we want to. It also tells us that we can change any negative experience we want to. However, we tend to create habits of thought which cause us to think or create images that are consistent. To break the habit we will need to become conscious of the images we create and change the negative ones to more empowering images that support our desired outcomes. We will also need to do this consistently so we can create new habits where we will be able to experience more empowering thoughts unconsciously and automatically.
Let’s look at an example: You want to lose weight/fat and are having a hard time. Think about the images you have of the outcome. Are they represented as an image only or is their sound, smells, tastes, do you get a feeling? Most would say they get a faint image, but nothing else. Some will say they never noticed any image at all. This tells us that the RAS was never activated and is why they probably never experienced the outcome they desired. In order to get the outcomes we desire we will need to activate the RAS so we will have an automatic pilot helping us along the way. To activate the RAS we will need to get a full image of what we want with the intensity of the Submodalities turned way up.
To change this and to experience how powerful the mind really is lets create a new image of what you want to look like if your goal was to lose weight/fat. Get a clear image in your mind of the outcome you desire. Using the Submodalities add color to the image; make it bright like an HD picture. In great detail see the body you want from head to toe. What sounds are associated to the image? Can you hear others saying great things about your physique? Do you hear the sounds of the gym? Are the sounds loud or soft? Generate imaginary sounds that will support you. Hear your friends saying wonderful things about your body. Hear people on the street saying positive statements about the body you have created. What feelings do you have internally about the image? Feel the emotions running through your body. Increase the intensity of the feelings and make them surge throughout your body.
When you do this you will experience massive state changes and this should help you understand the power of images you create in your mind. The key is to hold these images as long as you can. In the beginning you will find this difficult, but as you practice this technique you will be able to hold the empowering image for longer periods of time. Most people cannot hold an image for more than 30 seconds, but if you can get a quick snapshot of the image and the Submodalities you will experience the power of the mind and will attain your desired outcome. The hard part will be to do this consistently. This is where most people fail; they are not committed to consistency. The good news is that once you perform this for about a week on a daily basis you will notice that your behaviors will be more consistent with achieving the image you have created.
The best time to perform this is first thing in the morning and just before you go to bed for about 3 to 5 minutes. It would be even more powerful if you add another during the day just before lunch and one before diner. Try to do this before every meal, even before a snack or when you are faced with having food in front of you. You will find that it will help you overcome the urges to over eat or to eat unhealthy foods.
Once you begin seeing the image in its full intensity you will find that your desire to continue will get stronger. It is important to understand that you will need to change your behaviors, eating habits and exercise habits, on your own in the beginning, but once you get going eating healthy and exercising regularly will become a habit as well. Imagery is a supportive tool which will help curb unhealthy choices or choices that will not take you to your goal. No one said change would be easy, but now that you understand how the mind works the hard part will be your ability to consistently get yourself to perform the visualization exercise. The exercise will help direct your behavior and will help motivate you to achieve your goal. This process can be done for any goal. To enhance your understanding and to help others reach their goals teach it to a friend or a work associate, your efforts will provide a gift that can help change lives!
Wednesday, 31 December 2008
"A Great Time to Grow"
Hi Everyone!
I am looking forward to the new year and I know many of you are as well. I also know that many of you, as I am, are experienceing a great deal of change and concern with all that is happening.
As I sat thinking this morning, as I do every morning, I realized something very important with regards to change. I realized that change is when people can grow. In fact, it is, I think, the only sure way to grow. Think about it, when we experience change we have to consider the values we hold and we have to change those values to meet the change with success. If we do not look at our values and adapt to the environment we can experience great pain.
With what we are experiencing today we can welcome it with open arms. This is a new year and it is in the new year people like to make changes to their life. I know I do and this year will be a very important year for myself and The Pillers. I have thought deeply about the values I hold and the values the Pillars holds in terms of what makes a great life and a great bussiness. I plan on making this year the best year of my life!
I would like to hear from you and what you have learned from the changes you have experienced due to the situation we all face. In fact, we all can learn from each other and I want this to be a place where we can share helpful hints in terms of getting along with life and experiencing true happiness.
Feel free to share your story and remember you may respond to me directly at: john@7poe.com. You may also call me at: 513-234-7848. I am very excited to hear from you and I hope only the best for all of you. Start the year off helping others by sending me your story so I can share it with my readers.
Dr. John P. DeMann, CPEC
Member: ICF
Member: APA
I am looking forward to the new year and I know many of you are as well. I also know that many of you, as I am, are experienceing a great deal of change and concern with all that is happening.
As I sat thinking this morning, as I do every morning, I realized something very important with regards to change. I realized that change is when people can grow. In fact, it is, I think, the only sure way to grow. Think about it, when we experience change we have to consider the values we hold and we have to change those values to meet the change with success. If we do not look at our values and adapt to the environment we can experience great pain.
With what we are experiencing today we can welcome it with open arms. This is a new year and it is in the new year people like to make changes to their life. I know I do and this year will be a very important year for myself and The Pillers. I have thought deeply about the values I hold and the values the Pillars holds in terms of what makes a great life and a great bussiness. I plan on making this year the best year of my life!
I would like to hear from you and what you have learned from the changes you have experienced due to the situation we all face. In fact, we all can learn from each other and I want this to be a place where we can share helpful hints in terms of getting along with life and experiencing true happiness.
Feel free to share your story and remember you may respond to me directly at: john@7poe.com. You may also call me at: 513-234-7848. I am very excited to hear from you and I hope only the best for all of you. Start the year off helping others by sending me your story so I can share it with my readers.
Dr. John P. DeMann, CPEC
Member: ICF
Member: APA
Thursday, 25 October 2007
Local MDs Now Have Option For Fitness and Life Improvement
Local MDs Now Have Option for Fitness
Mason Ohio 10-25-2007: By Dana E. Reasons, The Star Report -- Over the past few years, more physicians have been writing prescriptions for exercise as a way to reduce health risks stemming from obesity or to treat certain medical conditions. Some have been referring patients to personal trainers as a way to help them establish sound exercise routines and encourage compliance.
Personal trainers can provide exercise prescription details that are often not taught in medical schools. They assess body fat, strength, flexibility, and balance before designing a thorough and specific workout program that usually includes a combination of cardiovascular, strength, and flexibility exercises. Due to their flexible hours and settings, personal trainers are also often a good option for patients who find it difficult to get to physical therapy locations.
Dr. John P. DeMann, certified fitness professional and certified personal and executive coach specializes in helping clients to decrease body fat percentage while increasing lean muscle tissue. He also believes in helping clients create an image of power and vitality along with their work that he feels will be the main reason people will be recognized for promotion. He uses a weight-training regimen combined with cardiovascular exercise, sensible nutrition and a flexibility program. He also uses a personal and professional coaching program that promotes the clients personal and professional development so they can realize their dreams. Research shows that those in shape and whose life is in order are more likely to get promotions. Many may not like this statement, but like anything else in life it may not be fair, but it is true!"
This country is plagued with an epidemic of high blood pressure, Type II diabetes, obesity and other lifestyle diseases,” reports Dr. John P. DeMann, owner of Pillars of Excellence located in Mason Ohio. With nearly 1 in 4 people affected, it is very common for Medical doctors to tell their patients to lose weight and get into better physical shape. Now, when the doctor tells the patient they need to be better about their fitness levels, I step in to show them how. I also show them that behavior modification is a key factor as well. The truth is that life is a challenge and those who can make the best of what they do are going to be the ones who create the tomorrows and make the world what it is. I assure you that I am going to help as many people make the best of their life so I can at least be a part of making the world something better each and every day.”
Increasingly more doctors are using the services of qualified personal trainers and personal and professional coaches to assist them in helping their clients achieve not only an optimal weight and body mass index, but also a life they have always dreamed of. The truth is that when people are happy they live longer more fulfilling lives. For more information on how you can work with a personal trainer and personal and professional coach contact the Pillars of Excellence. You may go to our web-site at http://www.7poe.com/ or call 513-336-7172.
Mason Ohio 10-25-2007: By Dana E. Reasons, The Star Report -- Over the past few years, more physicians have been writing prescriptions for exercise as a way to reduce health risks stemming from obesity or to treat certain medical conditions. Some have been referring patients to personal trainers as a way to help them establish sound exercise routines and encourage compliance.
Personal trainers can provide exercise prescription details that are often not taught in medical schools. They assess body fat, strength, flexibility, and balance before designing a thorough and specific workout program that usually includes a combination of cardiovascular, strength, and flexibility exercises. Due to their flexible hours and settings, personal trainers are also often a good option for patients who find it difficult to get to physical therapy locations.
Dr. John P. DeMann, certified fitness professional and certified personal and executive coach specializes in helping clients to decrease body fat percentage while increasing lean muscle tissue. He also believes in helping clients create an image of power and vitality along with their work that he feels will be the main reason people will be recognized for promotion. He uses a weight-training regimen combined with cardiovascular exercise, sensible nutrition and a flexibility program. He also uses a personal and professional coaching program that promotes the clients personal and professional development so they can realize their dreams. Research shows that those in shape and whose life is in order are more likely to get promotions. Many may not like this statement, but like anything else in life it may not be fair, but it is true!"
This country is plagued with an epidemic of high blood pressure, Type II diabetes, obesity and other lifestyle diseases,” reports Dr. John P. DeMann, owner of Pillars of Excellence located in Mason Ohio. With nearly 1 in 4 people affected, it is very common for Medical doctors to tell their patients to lose weight and get into better physical shape. Now, when the doctor tells the patient they need to be better about their fitness levels, I step in to show them how. I also show them that behavior modification is a key factor as well. The truth is that life is a challenge and those who can make the best of what they do are going to be the ones who create the tomorrows and make the world what it is. I assure you that I am going to help as many people make the best of their life so I can at least be a part of making the world something better each and every day.”
Increasingly more doctors are using the services of qualified personal trainers and personal and professional coaches to assist them in helping their clients achieve not only an optimal weight and body mass index, but also a life they have always dreamed of. The truth is that when people are happy they live longer more fulfilling lives. For more information on how you can work with a personal trainer and personal and professional coach contact the Pillars of Excellence. You may go to our web-site at http://www.7poe.com/ or call 513-336-7172.
Sunday, 5 August 2007
NLP Pattern: Well-Formed Outcome Pattern
We are going to look at a series of Patterns that can help create change in your life. We will be providing step by step instructions for how to run the brain and create the change we need to make in order to achieve human excellence. My interest in life is the creation of human excellence and I have found the best and most effective way to attain excellence in any activity is to model it. This allows us to take a short cut and learn from others who have attained what we want to attain.
In the coaching style approach to change we focus on the outcome. Outcome thinking is really a powerful approach to change and is one of the best ways to fin achievement in life.
I wrote once that Flow is attained when one knows what they are after and that the actions taken to achieve the outcome are actions that are taking one closer to the desired outcome. This allows us to feel as if we are productive and when this state is attained we simply can't help, but to feel like we are making progress.
Outcome based thinking is only the start and you must realize that with outcome based thinking we must know the actions needed to attain the outcome. The actions we need to take can be considered the patterns, I also call a set of action steps the model. Let us consider a pattern we can use to achieve an outcome, we call the pattern a Well-Formed Outcome Pattern. Below I have provided you a step by step approach that you can use to achieve any outcome you desire. I suggest that you do this for all activities in life and first thing everyday I would suggest you look at your desired outcome and review it. I would also suggest you determine the emotions or the state you will be in when you attain the outcome. The truth is that you will feel the state everyday as long as you are moving toward the outcome by taking the steps in the Well-Formed Outcome Pattern:
1. State the outcome in the positive: There is something to be said about positive thinking as research shows that those who are positive have a much higher success rate in achieving their goals.
2. State what you can do and maintain in order to attain the outcome: Here is the place you want to decide what actions you must take to achieve the outcome. It is important that you find daily actions that will take you closer to the outcome, this is what will allow you to experience the state you desire experience when you attain the outcome, but this will allow you to have the experience now!
3. Contextualize when, where and with whom: Make the outcome very clear. This means to be sure to have detail in the pattern so you know when it will be achieved, where it will happen and who else will be involved.
4. State in sensory-based words: State what you will see, hear and feel. The more emotion you add to your pattern the more likely you will achieve the outcome. If you have any experience with my teachings you know that I believe that goals are emotions that we seek. To attain any desired outcome we need to know what it is we are after in terms of emotions. All goals have a emotional base to them.
5. Sequence the goal into bite-sized steps and stages: Many do not reach their goals because they are too big. Sometimes people do not attain their goals because they are too small. The idea here is to make sure that the goal actions are set up in sequence and chunked down so it feels like you can achieve the goal.
6. Load up your goal description and plan with plenty of resources: Determine the resources you will need to attain the goal. This includes material and emotional needs. Do you have the confidence, the financial backing, the support etc.
7. Specify your evidence for fulfillment: Determine how you will know you have reached the goal. Also set up a way to know that you are moving towards your goal by making daily plans and make sure you follow these plans so you know each day you are making progress. This is very important because it allows you to feel like you are making progress which will motivate you to continue moving to attain the outcome you desire.
8. Make it compelling: Is the goal you seek compelling, in other words is it important to you, does it excite you.
9. Check for ecology: Does the goal fit with other goals you have? Does the goal meet your values? Will the goal enhance your life, empower you, empower others?
There you have it! Using the Pattern above for yourself and for others if you are in the helping profession provides a way to quality control objectives. If you use what you have learned I promise you will experience results that will make your desired goals a reality. Start now and use this pattern for something simple, but meaningful and see for yourself the power it holds.
I look forward to providing you many more patterns so please remember to keep a look out for more to come. I will provide over 70 of them and they will help you manage your life in a more organized and fulfilling way.
In the coaching style approach to change we focus on the outcome. Outcome thinking is really a powerful approach to change and is one of the best ways to fin achievement in life.
I wrote once that Flow is attained when one knows what they are after and that the actions taken to achieve the outcome are actions that are taking one closer to the desired outcome. This allows us to feel as if we are productive and when this state is attained we simply can't help, but to feel like we are making progress.
Outcome based thinking is only the start and you must realize that with outcome based thinking we must know the actions needed to attain the outcome. The actions we need to take can be considered the patterns, I also call a set of action steps the model. Let us consider a pattern we can use to achieve an outcome, we call the pattern a Well-Formed Outcome Pattern. Below I have provided you a step by step approach that you can use to achieve any outcome you desire. I suggest that you do this for all activities in life and first thing everyday I would suggest you look at your desired outcome and review it. I would also suggest you determine the emotions or the state you will be in when you attain the outcome. The truth is that you will feel the state everyday as long as you are moving toward the outcome by taking the steps in the Well-Formed Outcome Pattern:
1. State the outcome in the positive: There is something to be said about positive thinking as research shows that those who are positive have a much higher success rate in achieving their goals.
2. State what you can do and maintain in order to attain the outcome: Here is the place you want to decide what actions you must take to achieve the outcome. It is important that you find daily actions that will take you closer to the outcome, this is what will allow you to experience the state you desire experience when you attain the outcome, but this will allow you to have the experience now!
3. Contextualize when, where and with whom: Make the outcome very clear. This means to be sure to have detail in the pattern so you know when it will be achieved, where it will happen and who else will be involved.
4. State in sensory-based words: State what you will see, hear and feel. The more emotion you add to your pattern the more likely you will achieve the outcome. If you have any experience with my teachings you know that I believe that goals are emotions that we seek. To attain any desired outcome we need to know what it is we are after in terms of emotions. All goals have a emotional base to them.
5. Sequence the goal into bite-sized steps and stages: Many do not reach their goals because they are too big. Sometimes people do not attain their goals because they are too small. The idea here is to make sure that the goal actions are set up in sequence and chunked down so it feels like you can achieve the goal.
6. Load up your goal description and plan with plenty of resources: Determine the resources you will need to attain the goal. This includes material and emotional needs. Do you have the confidence, the financial backing, the support etc.
7. Specify your evidence for fulfillment: Determine how you will know you have reached the goal. Also set up a way to know that you are moving towards your goal by making daily plans and make sure you follow these plans so you know each day you are making progress. This is very important because it allows you to feel like you are making progress which will motivate you to continue moving to attain the outcome you desire.
8. Make it compelling: Is the goal you seek compelling, in other words is it important to you, does it excite you.
9. Check for ecology: Does the goal fit with other goals you have? Does the goal meet your values? Will the goal enhance your life, empower you, empower others?
There you have it! Using the Pattern above for yourself and for others if you are in the helping profession provides a way to quality control objectives. If you use what you have learned I promise you will experience results that will make your desired goals a reality. Start now and use this pattern for something simple, but meaningful and see for yourself the power it holds.
I look forward to providing you many more patterns so please remember to keep a look out for more to come. I will provide over 70 of them and they will help you manage your life in a more organized and fulfilling way.
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